Do you find yourself second guessing everything in your life? Is it difficult to make a decision and stick to it? Do you think everything is about you? Well, then this post is for you…not about you. I recently read that our minds can think up to 50,000 thoughts per day. Half of them are things we have thought before. I added that part, but you know it’s true. So today, I read this post by someone who was sad about something. And while I get the idea of being sad about something someone did…what you must remember at all times is that their actions are really about them. This is the number one hardest thing to get through your 50,000 thoughts.
First, you start to think about yourself and what you did to the person. Next you get mad. You start to blame the person. Then you ponder if you should message them. Something like, hey girl, I saw your post. I hope I didn’t do or say anything to upset you. Now unless you just got off the phone with them and said something like an old fashioned “Your Momma” joke that didn’t go over how you planned, well, you know this isn’t about you. It’s really about them. What you have to decide, right now, at this very moment, is do you want this to be about you? Do you feel guilty for something you did? If the answer is you were just talking about them behind their backs to someone, well I can see how you think it’s about you.
Nine times out of ten, this is not about you. But let’s say it is. Who cares? I mean really. Make a decision to be happy…not to let it get under your skin, and move on to the next thought. Like, what am I going to eat for dinner? Because in the end, you can control that. You can’t really control what this other person is doing or saying. How they act is up to them. How you react is up to you.
- Decide which thoughts you are going to act on.
- Decide not to react immediately.
- Move on. Don’t dwell.
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