Procrastination and the dreaded “resolutions”…3 tips to overcome it!

I know that at the end of each year, millions of people resolve to do better next year.   The problem is, resolve means steadfastness, and we let many things get in the way of that resolve.  Procrastination has become our safety net, trust me I know.

But what if we traded in that safety net, for true results?  What would happen?

We’d actually get things done.  We’d stop listening to fear and self-doubt.  We’d have to be accountable.  Ack.  Those things by themselves are scary.  Scary feet. Scary feet. Scary feet.  <<< Sully would approve of you being scared.

Unfortunately, if you are reading this, we have hit the grown up stage and the responsibilities that come with that are often too much for us in our heads, so we fall back on fear.  I understand.  I have been there many times.  So what changed for me?

3 tips to overcome procrastination:

  1. Create clearly defined goals…and then look to see if you can break them down even further.  In my new online community, I was talking about how to really get clear on what you want and then step back and see if it can be even more clear.  After we have created these crystal clear steps to your end result, make sure you know how realistic they are.  For example, one goal might be making more money.  Okay, so how much?  If you are on the path to millions, is that realistic right this very minute?  Maybe you can have a goal to make $100 more this pay period.  At the end of the year, you can have your big goal of making x amount of dollars.  Try not to write out that your goal is to get to the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
  2. Minimize the path to distractions…engage in community support.  As I was on the path to wellness, the community around me was not very supportive.  I had to change my focus as many of you have heard me say time and time again.  It actually became my most popular quote and my tag line, but I truly believe “Surround yourself with what you want to become.” << Okay, my original quote was a bit longer, but of course, I will put it at the end for you.  But let’s think about your distractions.  Write them out if you have to.  Map out your pitfalls like you are Indiana Freaking Jones and this is the Temple of Doom.  Write out snakes, those might be the people trying to bring you down.  “Why’d it have to be snakes?”  And then the booby traps, that might be the triple chocolate cake your friend ordered right in front of you.  The nerve.  Then what is going to save you from the pit?  Who or what is your rope vine that comes right as you need it?  Support.  Find that group of people who will be there for you.
  3. Get to a safe environment…whew.  After you have made it out of distraction zone, what are you going to do next?  Sticky notes.  I didn’t invent them though, but I use them.  So here are a few ways to help yourself with notes.  Get your planner ready and write in what you need to do.  Clean your desk area into one that is organized and less “Pig Pen” like.  Physically remove old to-do lists.  Streamline your tasks into today and by the end of today.  Don’t look at the overall month right now…that can be your future log.  Make certain you are holding yourself accountable or use the S.O.S. option if you are in my closed group. <<< that’s where you get to ask me for help on 1 specific thing before Thursday of each week.  It might show up as a blog post.  You never know:)

I really believe in you!  If I can do this, I know you can.  See the previous article called You Can Get Through This, because life is not a race. It’s a journey, and we are all trying to get through it the best we know how.

Here is your reminder, from me.  With much love:

Motivational Monday…Jackasses.

Sometimes, people grow apart.  It happens.  Sometimes, jealous people sabotage friendships.  It happens.  And sometimes, people do dumb things for no apparent reason.

You aren’t the jackass whisperer.

I saw a friend post about someone blocking her…and she had no idea why.  Why not simply tell the person what’s going on?  Isn’t that easier?  I guess not.  It’s like peek a boo as a kid.  If you put on your blinders then the other person clearly doesn’t exist anymore, right?  Hmm.

Let’s try this one on for size, you comment, like, say congrats, I am thinking about you, praying for you or whatever, and the person never ever says diddly squat back.  You message them, and the message obviously got lost in between the interwebs black hole, even though it says seen.  Or read.  Or they pretended to read it and clicked that thing where it appears they didn’t but you know they did.  Hmm.

Lastly, the person who must be a stalker.  They know what you are doing, but don’t click like on anything you ever post, convincing you they must have just hidden you.  One day, out of the blue you announce something great and all of a sudden, they start noticing you again.  What’s this all about?  I don’t know.  Sometimes I wonder about people. Their motives. Their hate. Their spite. The fake book, and the un-following…which is worse than un-friending. At least if they are gone, that’s one less negative energy in your life. But go ahead and let them look. Live your life.

I propose we stop living in the virtual friendship land, and remember that the person behind the computer screen has real feelings.  They are flesh and blood, and do in fact, have feelings.  In the event we need encouragement to move on though, here you go:

Haters gonna hate

Why can’t be people be real?  I guess Taylor sings it best.  Warning, scary movie advertisement before video.  Haha, but for real.

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Motivational Monday…”Grit”

What makes others succeed in business or even life, while others do not?  Grit.  Plain and simple.  I really like this idea from http://www.ted.com/talks/angela_lee_duckworth_the_key_to_success_grit  on how we need to teach our children that the brain grows and changes in response to challenge.  When you don’t believe that failure is a permanent condition, you are more likely to persevere.  Wow.  Let’s think about that shall we.  This relates to my last post as well.  Don’t you wish that some of your friends had more “grit” than they currently have?  Why?  Because it would help them grow.  We have to be willing to fail in order to succeed.  How crazy is that thought??

As a teacher, I saw the students who had true grit accomplish many things.  Perhaps I had it as well because there were many times my first year of teaching I wanted to quit.  Many, many, many times.  Teaching in a very difficult neighborhood, in an area known for poverty and police tape was scary.  Seeing the kids you taught overcome obstacles in their lives, now that took grit on their part.

You can start over again with lessons learned.  Just because it didn’t work out the way you thought it would the first time does NOT mean you are a failure.  You have learned something new.  So we need to teach our children the meaning of failure and pulling yourself back up again.  So on this last week of school, if you are a teacher reading this, I want you to know we have all been there.  Every single teacher I know has had a year he or she wanted to quit.  Even if only for a second.  It’s okay to think that way.  As long as you know you are not alone and that next year is a brand new year to try again.  Start over with new plans, new ideas, and new ways of doing things because let’s face, the curriculum changes almost every year anyway.  So rest easy this summer, and make a plan for showing your students some true grit come fall.  You’ll be ready.

FailureUltimately there is no such thing as failure. There are lessons learned in different ways.

Motivational Monday…

Here it is, another Monday, but this one doesn’t have to be like all the others.  In fact, this one could be the start of something new.  I am talking about a “new you”.  The idea to create something new is always in my head.  I know that I do more research than ermmm perhaps “normal” people on health topics.  But since I’m not “normal” anyway, who is by the way, and because I have a vision to help others, I decided to start a new business page.

Most people I know are exhausted in their current lives.  They are approaching a certain age, whatever age that is, and they have it in their head that this is it.  They have been through college, perhaps gotten married, maybe not, and are in their career for life.  This is it for them.  You all know I did something drastic last year.  I took a “sabbatical” in the middle of an economic crisis.  In a time when most people would keep their jobs and sludge forward through the daily piles of misery.  I could take it no longer.  I was unhappy with the way things were and my health was suffering.

I have it in my head that I control my destiny, not money.  I know, I know.  A ridiculous thought for sure.  Especially when I am in debt.  I mean, let’s just be real.  I. Am. In. Debt.  There you go.  But I have been reading a few books, and I have a plan.  Not only do I have a plan, but I believe it.  That is the biggest part to making your dreams succeed.  I decided I did NOT want to be a “starving” writer, quite literally.  I am putting some things on the back burner for now, and focusing on my goal.  Get out of debt.  Once I cross that off my list, the rest will follow.

If you are interested, you can find my new page, Vitalize You.  The thing is, I do not want you to click “LIKE”.  Nope.  Don’t do that.  Not until you have looked through all the albums and read about it.  Then if you are interested, click “like”.  You will not offend me if you are not interested.  This is, and always will be, about me.  But if I can help you along the way, let me know.  Message the page.

Scatter Joy

P.S.  This will be the only post about my new business…if I make a spin-off blog in the future, I’ll let you know:)

Motivational Monday…

Here it is, another Monday, but this one doesn’t have to be like all the others.  In fact, this one could be the start of something new.  I am talking about a “new you”.  The idea to create something new is always in my head.  I know that I do more research than ermmm perhaps “normal” people on health topics.  But since I’m not “normal” anyway, who is by the way, and because I have a vision to help others, I decided to start a new business page.

Most people I know are exhausted in their current lives.  They are approaching a certain age, whatever age that is, and they have it in their head that this is it.  They have been through college, perhaps gotten married, maybe not, and are in their career for life.  This is it for them.  You all know I did something drastic last year.  I took a “sabbatical” in the middle of an economic crisis.  In a time when most people would keep their jobs and sludge forward through the daily piles of misery.  I could take it no longer.  I was unhappy with the way things were and my health was suffering.

I have it in my head that I control my destiny, not money.  I know, I know.  A ridiculous thought for sure.  Especially when I am in debt.  I mean, let’s just be real.  I. Am. In. Debt.  There you go.  But I have been reading a few books, and I have a plan.  Not only do I have a plan, but I believe it.  That is the biggest part to making your dreams succeed.  I decided I did NOT want to be a “starving” writer, quite literally.  I am putting some things on the back burner for now, and focusing on my goal.  Get out of debt.  Once I cross that off my list, the rest will follow.

If you are interested, you can find my new page, Vitalize You.  The thing is, I do not want you to click “LIKE”.  Nope.  Don’t do that.  Not until you have looked through all the albums and read about it.  Then if you are interested, click “like”.  You will not offend me if you are not interested.  This is, and always will be, about me.  But if I can help you along the way, let me know.  Message the page.

Scatter Joy

P.S.  This will be the only post about my new business…if I make a spin-off blog in the future, I’ll let you know:)

Motivational Monday…

There are times in your life when you must paste on the smile.  You nod your head politely and have no idea what the conversation is even about.  I have been through many of those moments.  This last year has been an extraordinary journey for me.  I have learned many valuable lessons.  The biggest one of all, the one that can make or break you, is the realization that it’s okay to be “not okay” during your life.  You do not have to have it all figured out.

It is okay to say I am going to take a break from this.  It is not failure until you quit.  It is okay to let people be disappointed in you.  That is their expectation of you, not yours.  Your success is not tied to anyone.  Period.  I have disappointed many people in my life, I’m sure.  Because they saw a vision of how my life should be.  I sold my first house to the amazement of others and bought an older home surrounded by wonderful trees, near water, and a nature trail.  People I knew thought we had lost our minds buying this old house.  I downsized.  OMG.  Less?  How dare I live with less.  As I look out my window now, all the leaves are brilliant and beautiful.  I call my old friend and we go for walks on the trail near my house.  I no longer live next to an AIRPORT.  You would have thought I moved half-way across the universe.  Seriously.

I have been writing almost everyday.  I am a writer.  I know it amazes some and confuses others.  It’s my J.O.B. now and I am currently not getting paid for it.  It doesn’t mean I will never make any money ever again.  No, it doesn’t.  But it means I am doing something for me.  Not for anyone else.  And I like it.  I can volunteer at my children’s schools now, and pop in when needed.  I can work the school store, and actually go to the store.  The benefits are amazing.  They are hugs, kisses, and meeting tiny people at the bus.  I no longer have the latest clothes…it’s okay.  Yoga pants are all the clothes I need anyway.  They are awesome.

So during this time, I have not had it all figured out.  But I have come to the conclusion that if we are HONEST with ourselves, and our friends, the ones who matter will still be here after I get finished with this process.  If they are gone, they were not willing to be part of my life.  That is not mean, negative or spiteful.  It is the truth.  It took me long enough to figure this out.

So the next time you are having problems, like one of my closest friends says, “It’s okay to not be okay.”  Life will go on, just remember to pick yourself back up and keep going.

Being Human

Motivational Monday…excuses

Today I was reaching hard for inspiration.  I found a post that reminded me of something I planned to do.  I decided it was past time to make it a reality this year and I am.  I really am.  I have no clue how my husband and I will get the money to travel to the place we have been saying we wanted to go for over 15 years, but we will.  I have said it before…I know, I know.  I make excuses.  I say we can’t do it because of the kids.  I say we can’t leave our dogs even though they will be fine in a kennel.  I say that food is necessary.  And perhaps paying bills is important.  I am sure, that if you want something bad enough, you can make it happen.  And that was my motivation for today.  I will find a way.

They say that no matter how busy you are that you find a way to make time for what is important to you.  This includes travel, friends, spending time with your spouse, whatever.  The things that matter to you become more of a priority and less of an idea on the back burner.  It’s not that I don’t know who my real friends are, I do.  I always have.  They make time for me and not excuses.  It’s the same with anything in life.  Don’t make excuses.  I’ve got my idea, and now I have to make it happen.

“Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.”  ~Swami Vivekananda

Motivational Monday…

Psst.  Hey you over there.  The one in your pajamas.  Yeah, that’s right.  You.  Did you have a hard day at work?  Does it make you feel better to immediately get out of your constricting work clothes.  Did you make your hot tea yet?  Are you still grinding your teeth?  Stop.  I have good news for you.  You are home now.  The bad news is that you have to go back tomorrow.  Ha.  Since you do, I have a few thoughts for you.

Were you excellent in everything you did today?  No.  Try harder tomorrow.  That’s right.  Today is over, but tomorrow is a fresh start.  Do NOT revisit the mistakes of today.  Vow to work smarter.  “The secret of joy in work is contained in one word – excellence. To know how to do something well is to enjoy it.”  ~Pearl Buck

Did you concentrate on your strengths today?  No.  Point out what was wrong with everything?  Talk about the problems without offering real solutions.  Hmm.  Why don’t you focus on what went right and what you can do to change things.  “Concentrate on your strengths, instead of your weaknesses… on your powers, instead of your problems.” ~Paul J. Meyer

If you did run into a problem, did you give up?  Did you say “I don’t make a difference.  My voice is not enough to change this.”  I have news for you.  It is.  Please stop expecting other people to solve your problems, fix your mistakes, or do your job for you.  I work just as hard as you do, but I can’t be the only one to make a difference.  “All of the great leaders have had one characteristic in common: it was the willingness to confront unequivocally the major anxiety of their people in their time. This, and not much else, is the essence of leadership.” ~John Kenneth Galbraith

If you expect everyone else to solve the problems you were hired to deal with, you will not find success at your current job.

“The great successful men of the world have used their imagination.  They think ahead and create their mental picture in all its details, filling in here, adding a little there, altering this a bit and that a bit, but steadily building – steadily building.”~Robert Collier