5 Tips For Picking Yourself Back Up Again.

5 tips for picking yourself back up againI sat with my head in my hands and I thought “I don’t know how to write anything today, but people need me.”  I said that yesterday too as I did the brief healing Live chat.  And I thought it the day before right as I went on to be interviewed live from my business mentor in England.

Last week my feed was up and down on social media (when is it not, really?), and I said to myself “Aimee, don’t get involved with this stupidity.  Move on.”  I don’t listen to myself because I have this inner sense of if I can help, I am going to say something.  So I just told two people to knock off the arguing on public forums, go have a coffee and a hug.  They were better than that.

So do you feel close to an emotional melt-down this week?  Have you already had one?  As we fluctuate between feeling good and then feeling low, depending on the stimulus of our environment, I want you to really step back and become an observer as best you can.  Picking yourself up again over and over can be a process that wears you out.  So how can we do it and maintain that level of balance of balance in life?

5 Tips For Picking Yourself Back Up Again (and staying there):

  1. Do the impossible.  Pause.  I know that we all wish we had a pause button, but I want you to operate as if you had a remote with you at all times.  I did this yesterday and it was right before I made the decision to go ahead and read something that would upset me, but it was time to get it over with and then feel it.  I paused knowing that I needed to just get it over with, read it, process it as best I could, and move on.
  2. Allow yourself to let it out.  So there I was, in my sweaty yoga clothes, knowing that it was time to feel sadness, but that after I got it all out, I was going to go get cleaned up and move on.  I couldn’t allow myself to stay there, make a blanket fort, and hide out with a bar of chocolate and reruns of the Gilmore Girls.  Hoping that this time, Rory says yes to Logan.  Whatever your go-to thing is, running, yoga, journaling, do whatever it is you need to do to let it all out at that time.  Then step back, take a look at your emotions all out there and think “There.  That wasn’t that bad.”  And move on.  << tips for later on moving forward
  3. Mini-goals are key.  I teach the methods of mindfulness, pausing, and setting yourself up for success by choosing small, achievable goals.  Think baby steps.  Each new month, my Club starts off with what we want to achieve this month.  So say you had a set-back that was at work.  The boss gave you a task and you just dropped the ball.  Think about what happened in terms of small goals.  Did you put dates on the calendar for when things should be done?  Did you write yourself sticky notes that you could crumble up satisfyingly (I like to do that)?  Or make a list that you could strike things off when completed?  I secretly do this as well.  How are you organizing your planner for success?  I also teach this in my wellness course as it’s important for exercise, weight loss and so much more.
  4. Give thanks.  This is probably harder than any of the other tasks because you are down there in the depths of despair and you are feeling alone, isolated perhaps, and maybe even misunderstood.  I want you to take 3 deep breaths and place your hand on your heart with each breath.  Do you feel that?  That’s connection.  You are connected to a greater purpose and you have a new chance to get back up again.  Gratitude can actually interrupt patterns of anxiety.  If you don’t know how to begin a gratitude practice, I invite you to start a journal. << tips for later on how to start
  5. Rest.  Unplug.  I know that feel like we have to stay connected to the world, but sometimes, unplugging and going to bed early is the best thing for our bodies.  Take a bath, read a book, journal, but make it a point to do something good for you.  Getting a good night’s sleep can help you see things in a better light.

In a world that is constantly sending us too many signals, some of us more than ever need to create that safe space to relax and unwind.  If you are highly sensitive, make sure you are surrounding yourself with the types of energies you want to attract in your life that will help you fill up your cup.  If you are looking for a place that supports you, helps you with daily prompts, a closed group, and 24/7 access to journaling, mindful tips, meditation and bonus yoga poses (that are chair friendly), check out the Head|Heart|Health Club << We’d love to have you.

Autoimmune help on Christmas Eve.

Hi friends.  I wonder how many of you suffer from autoimmune diseases and just don’t realize it?   It’s been one year since I gave up processed foods, sugar, flour and any word on an ingredient list I couldn’t pronounce or immediately recognize.  I have good days and bad days just like anyone else.  It’s been almost 2 years since I started figuring out what triggers my “flare ups” and mood swings.  I still don’t have it down to a science the way I want to.  For example, yesterday my children and I made a gluten-free eggnog cake.  Sounds delicious huh?  It was.  I have everything on Pinterest🙂  Anyway, after eating it and drinking my tea, I began to feel weird.  I got a bad headache and my throat started hurting…signs there was something that was triggering an autoimmune reaction.  Later, bloating.  When I woke up today, red eyes that were sticky.  If you have been following me for a while, you might recall when I started putting all this together.

Bad food triggers bad responses.  Period.

I was doing research on neurotransmitters and the brain…but more specifically how food triggers reactions in the stomach to the brain thus causing depression and/or mood swings that come out of no where.  Anyway, that was last year and you can find it by searching for “New Year, New Brain?” over there on the side search thing a ma jig.  I can’t stop researching.  I probably can…but I haven’t yet.  So a friend suggested a while back that I get a light box to help with my moods during the winter as it’s harder on me.  Fibromyalgia flares up in the cold, there are people making things I can’t eat, and after 38 years of basically eating whatever anyone put in front of me, including sushi, it’s difficult for someone who loves food to be able to cope with what my body is doing to me.  It doesn’t help that every single time we go out, no matter how hard my dad tries, he passes me the bread when we get it and I say no thank you and he keeps saying “I’m so sorry.  I forgot.”

So I came across this interesting talk, and I wanted to put it out there as a reminder that there really are things we can still control without pharmaceuticals.  I know that I am the rare person trying to reverse this without “drugs”, but more and more people are thinking about this I hope.  So here it is, Brain Chemistry Life-hacks:

My husband was just shaking his head at me as I listened to this “guy”, you know a clinical neuroscientist, because he tells me to move more.  I know exercise is important.  I do.  I get it.  That’s why I go to yoga, but I don’t go enough.  So I need to change that.  I need to go at least 3 times a week.  It can be 2 yoga days and 1 walking day, but it does matter.  I have GOT to do better…at something I used to like doing.  The mind is very powerful and we have to learn how to control it as I believe it’s the key to helping people like me fight off the diseases.  Once my body is brought back into fully functioning mode, I have to take care of it better.

Getting autoimmune help is just a matter of learning your body and how it reacts.

So if you are like me, you have autoimmune diseases, fibromyalgia or anything that causes flares/pain, pay attention to what you are doing.  Eating.  Putting into your body.  Stay away, far far away, from sugar.  Do not feel bad you are not putting “cocaine” as Steve Ilardi calls it into your body…he gets to that at around 8 minutes in.  Listen carefully (as a side note, I use only coconut palm sugar or pure maple now as it breaks down differently.  I also take Omega-3 supplements, mine, so see the tab Vitalize You for how to purchase what I use.  Everything I take is all-natural, with no additives, and is made using phytotherapy or plant based methods.)  It became so important to my health, that we started a business called Vitalize You Wellness.

This video runs about 10 minutes and if you are having a hard time during the Holiday season, really pay attention.  You can help your own moods, depression, and life.  You can.  So my gift to you is to think about happy thoughts, get a light box if needed, take care of yourself, go to yoga or exercise, grab a buddy, and don’t ruminate on those negatives in your head.  Don’t.  Experience changes the brain.  Change your thoughts.

** Author’s note, this was written before I went through 200 hours of yoga teacher certification, completely re-trained my body to move again, and then was additionally trained in using yoga to help with pain and arthritis.

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New Year, New Brain?

You knew it was coming.  I might, just might, be doing a tiny bit more research.  I know.  Some people are addicted to finding answers.  I guess that’s me.  Ever since my body started attacking me, and I was well, not happy about it, I have been on a mission to find out where all this was coming from.  I know that as a child I was sick more often than not.  By 5 years old, I had tubes in my ears, and had been on antibiotics so much that I looked forward to the pink medicine my mom gave me.  I remember being sick, shivering under crocheted afghans, on the mildly scratchy brown plaid couch.  The pattern continued to repeat all the way into adulthood.

Knock on wood, but right now, since changing things with my body, and the way I eat, I have started to heal internally…I think.  I have not gotten sick even though I have been around others who were very sick.  My stomach is leveling out and my “second brain” is healing.  Wonder what I am talking about?  Read this article on How the Gut’s Second Brain Influences Mood and Well-being.  I know this to be true because when I was under constant attack only a few months ago, I was perhaps the worst mood-wise I have ever been.  I back this up with research that has been ongoing for years:

DO BACTERIA CONTROL THE BRAIN?

A study published in the journal Neurogastroenterology and Motility indicates that it is not simply the neurons and neurotransmitters in the stomach that play a role in signaling to the brain.  In fact, a large part of the work may be done by the “intestinal microbiota” in your gut—a.k.a. the germs in your stomach.

There are approximately 100 trillion bacteria that reside in your intestines, reports Psychology Today.  Researchers in Canada have studied these microbes and have concluded, “that the presence or absence of conventional intestinal microbiota influences the development of behavior and is accompanied by neurochemical changes in the brain.”

Some believe that this study could serve as a gateway to treating stress-related disorders such as depression, reports Psychology Today.

Not only do I believe this, but I have been conducting research on my own, and using myself as a test subject.  Why?  Because I had nothing to lose.  I was already in pain, so I needed to start at ground zero.  The good news is that after taking some of the food triggers away and adding the healing supplements I have been taking, I seem to be able to know how to balance myself out.  The bad news is that my gut has more triggers than most.  The autoimmune disease I have thinks most food is trying to attack me, so I have been very careful.  I have messed up twice during the holidays and immediately had another attack.  It is when I eat any food other than prepared by my household that I have pain.

Lastly, I just wanted to throw this bit of news in here.  After years of research on keeping the gut balanced, the body aligned and your head clear of extraneous mood triggers, I developed 4 Weeks to Wellness.  Feel free to check it out!  Hover over the link to go there and click it to learn more.

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The missing chemical…

No, I have not stolen anything from a science lab.  I am talking about hormones.  Unfortunately, with everything else that is going on in my life, I am experiencing some wonderful side effects of one of my diseases.  I am blaming hereditary hemochromatosis for everything, the way you might blame your sibling.  She started it first, so therefore, it is her fault.  Anyway, I recently saw a Naturopathic Doctor because I felt like I was out of options.  You might laugh at the idea of seeing this type of doctor, but I was getting desperate.  You see, through all of my research, I suspected I was having hormonal side effects, and unfortunately, because of my disease, ha, I can’t take certain pills…involving umm hormones.  Sigh.  So anyway, here is a great link that helped describe what was happening to me.  I liked this line in particular: I often describe estrogen as a wild child running around a woman’s body, stimulating all sorts of activity. Progesterone is more like estrogen’s parent and regulates its activity. It says to estrogen, “I know you have to do what you gotta do, but I’m here to make sure you calm down and do it right.”   Okay, Dr. Mazzei, you keep telling yourself that is like a wild child, but in reality, I know it is more like this:

Any questions?  Yeah, I kinda think I’m going to need some of my progesterone back soon.  Thanks.

“What basically happens is your hormones get out of whack. Because of the stress in your life your body says, ‘I need more hormones.’ So, your hormones are trying to produce and produce and produce, and it’s even more stressful and it is this wicked cycle.”  ~Brought to you by Marie Osmond

The missing chemical…

No, I have not stolen anything from a science lab.  I am talking about hormones.  Unfortunately, with everything else that is going on in my life, I am experiencing some wonderful side effects of one of my diseases.  I am blaming hereditary hemochromatosis for everything, the way you might blame your sibling.  She started it first, so therefore, it is her fault.  Anyway, I recently saw a Naturopathic Doctor because I felt like I was out of options.  You might laugh at the idea of seeing this type of doctor, but I was getting desperate.  You see, through all of my research, I suspected I was having hormonal side effects, and unfortunately, because of my disease, ha, I can’t take certain pills…involving umm hormones.  Sigh.  So anyway, here is a great link that helped describe what was happening to me.  I liked this line in particular: I often describe estrogen as a wild child running around a woman’s body, stimulating all sorts of activity. Progesterone is more like estrogen’s parent and regulates its activity. It says to estrogen, “I know you have to do what you gotta do, but I’m here to make sure you calm down and do it right.”   Okay, Dr. Mazzei, you keep telling yourself that is like a wild child, but in reality, I know it is more like this:

Any questions?  Yeah, I kinda think I’m going to need some of my progesterone back soon.  Thanks.

“What basically happens is your hormones get out of whack. Because of the stress in your life your body says, ‘I need more hormones.’ So, your hormones are trying to produce and produce and produce, and it’s even more stressful and it is this wicked cycle.”  ~Brought to you by Marie Osmond