5 Tips For Picking Yourself Back Up Again.

5 tips for picking yourself back up againI sat with my head in my hands and I thought “I don’t know how to write anything today, but people need me.”  I said that yesterday too as I did the brief healing Live chat.  And I thought it the day before right as I went on to be interviewed live from my business mentor in England.

Last week my feed was up and down on social media (when is it not, really?), and I said to myself “Aimee, don’t get involved with this stupidity.  Move on.”  I don’t listen to myself because I have this inner sense of if I can help, I am going to say something.  So I just told two people to knock off the arguing on public forums, go have a coffee and a hug.  They were better than that.

So do you feel close to an emotional melt-down this week?  Have you already had one?  As we fluctuate between feeling good and then feeling low, depending on the stimulus of our environment, I want you to really step back and become an observer as best you can.  Picking yourself up again over and over can be a process that wears you out.  So how can we do it and maintain that level of balance of balance in life?

5 Tips For Picking Yourself Back Up Again (and staying there):

  1. Do the impossible.  Pause.  I know that we all wish we had a pause button, but I want you to operate as if you had a remote with you at all times.  I did this yesterday and it was right before I made the decision to go ahead and read something that would upset me, but it was time to get it over with and then feel it.  I paused knowing that I needed to just get it over with, read it, process it as best I could, and move on.
  2. Allow yourself to let it out.  So there I was, in my sweaty yoga clothes, knowing that it was time to feel sadness, but that after I got it all out, I was going to go get cleaned up and move on.  I couldn’t allow myself to stay there, make a blanket fort, and hide out with a bar of chocolate and reruns of the Gilmore Girls.  Hoping that this time, Rory says yes to Logan.  Whatever your go-to thing is, running, yoga, journaling, do whatever it is you need to do to let it all out at that time.  Then step back, take a look at your emotions all out there and think “There.  That wasn’t that bad.”  And move on.  << tips for later on moving forward
  3. Mini-goals are key.  I teach the methods of mindfulness, pausing, and setting yourself up for success by choosing small, achievable goals.  Think baby steps.  Each new month, my Club starts off with what we want to achieve this month.  So say you had a set-back that was at work.  The boss gave you a task and you just dropped the ball.  Think about what happened in terms of small goals.  Did you put dates on the calendar for when things should be done?  Did you write yourself sticky notes that you could crumble up satisfyingly (I like to do that)?  Or make a list that you could strike things off when completed?  I secretly do this as well.  How are you organizing your planner for success?  I also teach this in my wellness course as it’s important for exercise, weight loss and so much more.
  4. Give thanks.  This is probably harder than any of the other tasks because you are down there in the depths of despair and you are feeling alone, isolated perhaps, and maybe even misunderstood.  I want you to take 3 deep breaths and place your hand on your heart with each breath.  Do you feel that?  That’s connection.  You are connected to a greater purpose and you have a new chance to get back up again.  Gratitude can actually interrupt patterns of anxiety.  If you don’t know how to begin a gratitude practice, I invite you to start a journal. << tips for later on how to start
  5. Rest.  Unplug.  I know that feel like we have to stay connected to the world, but sometimes, unplugging and going to bed early is the best thing for our bodies.  Take a bath, read a book, journal, but make it a point to do something good for you.  Getting a good night’s sleep can help you see things in a better light.

In a world that is constantly sending us too many signals, some of us more than ever need to create that safe space to relax and unwind.  If you are highly sensitive, make sure you are surrounding yourself with the types of energies you want to attract in your life that will help you fill up your cup.  If you are looking for a place that supports you, helps you with daily prompts, a closed group, and 24/7 access to journaling, mindful tips, meditation and bonus yoga poses (that are chair friendly), check out the Head|Heart|Health Club << We’d love to have you.

Let go of it…no really.

Tonight’s random topic is one that is near and dear to my heart.  It’s called letting go.  I might have touched on this briefly before, but I want to focus on why it is so hard for some of us to move forward.  I know exactly where I get it from.  For me, its genetic.  Don’t let my dad fool you.  He might have great words of advice for me when I call him, but he is also the first to go on and on and on and on about a topic even when we aren’t talking about that anymore.  So the first thing I want you to do is to take a mental poll.  Ask yourself why is this thing bothering me?  Once you get your answer, you can begin to move forward.

I am going to demonstrate with an example.  Last week, my neighbor started blowing his leaves out in the street.  This might not sound like a big deal.  They do NOT pick the leaves up until after Thanksgiving.  For real.  By the time this man is done, no one will have a place to park on that side of the road and all his leaves will block the drain.  Not only that, but I will have to hear about it every day from my husband.  So, I identified the problem, and looked at the city webpage to find out that in December they will pick the leaves up.  To solve this problem, I can think about it all the time.  I can get mad like my dad does, sorry dad, or I can call the city.  You can guess which one I am going to do if you know me.  I will also tell you that the mosquito control people are my BFFs and they know me by name.  Seriously.  I love me some vector control.

Next scenario, what do you do to people in traffic who get under your skin?  Do you tailgate, cuss up a blue streak, or do you smile and blow them a kiss?  Guess which one I do.  Ha.  Yes, I blow kisses to people who give me the bird.  Why?  Because a while back, I had my babies in the car and it made me so mad when someone honked and flipped me off that I smiled and blew them a kiss.  I really did.  Did it make me feel better?  Yes, for some reason it did.  Mostly because I look them right in the face when they do that to me.  Did you ever notice they won’t really look at you?  They know they are wrong.

Once you have identified why something is bothering you and why you are having a hard time letting it go, I want you to come up with at least three ways to solve your problem.  One of them can’t be to think about it until you get ulcers.  If you have made a move to fix it, and there is no resolution, work to let go of it.  Write it on a piece of paper and burn it or write it on toilet paper and flush it down the toilet (I teach my Club this).  Do not let your problems own you.  You control them.  Remember that.

Try this tip here too >>> Releasing Old Patterns of Thought

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning.”  ~Lao Tzu