Where is the Mid-Life Crisis Guidebook?

Where is the Mid-Life Crisis Guidebook?The other night I was staring at the clock.  11p.m. (that is an early bedtime to be honest).  Midnight (the cool ideas start coming in and I have to either write them, or sleep).  Then the minutes slowly clicked by for what seemed like an eternity.  I started saying things to myself like, “If I fall asleep now, I can get like 4 hours of sleep”, and later I thought about giving up and going to write.

Can you take a guess as to what was keeping me up?  I bet you can.  The old “What the hell am I doing with my life”? Thought came up out of nowhere.  Well, seemingly nowhere.  You see, I turned another year older and I bet I am not the only one who occasionally has these thoughts.

I started to make a mental list…a sort of mid-life crisis checklist if you will.  Here is what went on it.

  1. What do I love, like absolutely love, about where I am now?  I want you to list in your journal or on your planner, somewhere by hand, what it is you love about your life and/or job right this moment.  If nothing changed, what is the best thing about your life, job and where you are?
  2. What would I change about where I am right now?  Usually this one is a whole lot easier, right?  We have lists that have lists and sections, and letters and points from A to Z on this.  But narrow it down to your top 3 things if you can here.
  3. Where would I go if I had the means, the freedom, and no one to judge me?  This is kind of like your bucket list perhaps.  I started thinking about travel here, and retreats that I would like to go on.  You can list anything you want here.  Including new jobs or new places to live.
  4. If someone had to say what I am passionate about, could they?  This one is huge.  If something happened to you, or if someone had to narrow down what you would fight for or what really makes you alive, could someone say that about you because it is so evident?  Here is where I said yes.  Yes.  I am doing the things I am passionate about and people could say what they are.
  5. Where does the doubt come from and what triggers it?  I already knew the answer to this one for myself, but do you?  I encourage you to think about your triggers, what stays in your mind all night and what you think about.  If you have a hard time with this, try my S.O.S. video tips << from the other day.  <<  Ignore the beginning where I talk about the internet to myself.  haha.

In the end, this checklist answered my own doubts and I knew what was the next step for me after thinking about this half the night.  I know that I love, more than anything, my readers.  I don’t get to connect to as many on some platforms, but I do get to connect to my Head|Heart|Health Club << and that is where I am making the biggest difference.  I am seeing the changes in the energy of the Club members, seeing how different they react to what is going on in their lives, and how connecting with their inner most thoughts through a combination of journal therapy, mindfulness and centering through basic yoga poses is working for them.  This is what I am most passionate about...  Helping others recover from poor lifestyle choices and learning that there is a new treatment plan that doesn’t merely ignore your emotional body, but really addresses those needs as well.

Conquer yourself…

Sometimes I write based on a vibe I get from a variety of social networks.  I see what people are posting or tweeting.  As it gets closer to the holidays, some of my friends are having a hard time coping.  It might be their current life situation, health situation, or work.  Coming together with family during a stressful time might even make their stress level higher because they are being asked questions they would rather avoid talking about right now.  Start preparing yourself now.  That’s right.

I found a wonderful campaign out there that is dedicated to “improving the self-esteem and quality of life of people undergoing treatment for cancer.”  The theory is called Look Good…Feel Better.  Now, before anyone wonders why I am posting this, I think this can help everyone on my list.  It’s very hard to feel good about yourself when you are going through illness or hard times, so I thought I’d post this in honor of some friends going through similar things.

Start thinking positive about your job.  Sometimes that isn’t easy, but you know someone will ask you how your job is going and well, the link above offers you suggestions of how to stay positive.  I can name many things that need fixing, but that’s not my focus because there are so many great things about my job that I love.

How to improve your life situation…well, that is entirely up to you, but I did find this nice resource to give you a place to start.  The table of contents lists things such as tips for eating on the run, ways to stay fit, stress relief, and getting a good night’s sleep.  I’d say that those are a great start to feeling better.

I’m not saying that this will help you improve things overnight, but you and I both know you can do it.

“It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell.”  ~Buddha


The head honcho…

Administrator, big cheese, leader, boss…the head honcho in charge.  I wonder just how many people fantasize about being the boss of their company.  Working with insubordinate co-workers is just part of life, so I often find myself wondering what I would do if I were in charge.  You know the people I am talking about.  As I write this, a few come to mind at my work place.  These people would rather be anywhere except at their job.  They are truly unhappy people and undisciplined for the most part.  Every rule that your boss has in place they defy just to prove that they can and still walk down the hall like the world owes them something.  They are doing your work place a service just by showing up.  You know these folks.  You are probably thinking of a few right now.  They sit in a corner as well as talk about everything that is wrong, and do nothing but complain all day long.  They come in late for meetings and try to hide.  They are negative, antagonistic, and sometimes hostile.  When you see them walking down the hall towards you, you might secretly pretend to read some papers you are holding just so you don’t make eye contact.  It’s almost like they can infect you with their stubborn ways if you meet their gaze.

Now imagine being the boss.  I always think I would nip this in the bud.  I have solutions for these problems I see at my workplace, and I think they would work.  Some days, I go in my administrator’s office to ask a question and get the ole’ evil eye.  Other days, she looks plain worn out.  I wonder just how many complaints she deals with in a given day.  You see, my philosophy is that when I am done with work, I am done.  I do not believe in bringing it home unless I want to, and most of the time, I don’t.  There is nothing that is more important to me right now than my family, and that means staying well for them.  If I were to trade places with my boss, I know I would not be able to leave it there.  I would not only bring home my “baggage”, but I am sure I would bring home my co-workers as well.  I don’t need that in my life.

It is easy to think about what we would do if we were in charge nevertheless, we aren’t for good reason.  I would honestly tell people exactly what I think of their work habits and I know I would do it without much finesse.  If you broke the dress code, you would go home and change.  I would make you take leave to do it.  If you came in late, you would be docked time.  If you took more than your allotted lunch hour on a recurring basis, I would dock your time as well or you would have to work overtime for it.  If you played games, answered personal calls, sent texts from your phone everyday, I would simply ask you to turn your phone off during work hours or I would start charging you for that as well.  If you were negative during my meetings and did not provide solutions, I would offer you a chance to work late to provide solutions to whatever thing you were complaining about.  If you were constantly saying you hated your job on your social network of choice, I would give you the option to leave or be fired.  End of discussion.  I am sure I can find people who want your job.

Yup.  I am convinced I would be a terrible boss.  I would do exactly what I said, and for that, people would not like me.  I would not play games with you, or hint around that you needed to improve your work ethics “or else”.  I would not send blanket e-mails to my entire staff hinting that you were wearing something unprofessional and should not wear that again.  I would not imply that people should not take longer than their 30 minute approved lunch which includes “transit” time.  I would simply ask you to stay later since I noticed you took longer and I am sure you don’t mind making that time up.  On the other hand, I would commend the ones that follow the rules, arrive early, get to the meetings on time, and love doing their job well.  They would be allowed to ask me to leave 15 minutes early for this or that as long as they are still arriving early.  I would show them the same consideration they showed me.

“Coming together is a beginning.  Keeping together is progress.  Working together is success.”  ~Henry Ford