What does it mean to be heart-centered anyway? Well, you have heard that your heart wants one thing, but your brain wants another before. So let’s take a moment to examine that. The ego, or psyche sometimes thinks first and understands later. I know that I have been guilty of that. However, let’s suppose for a moment that you start to really focus within and you see past the surface. It takes a while to get used to pausing without reacting or speaking first, and learning to express from your heart, but it really can be done.
As we start to move from fear-based thinking to love-based living, the world expands. Fear tends to shrink our environment and make us less likely to step out of that comfort zone, and love, well, love helps us do amazing things. I am not just talking about love for others though…this part is important. You definitely need to practice self-love and forgiveness of your own faults. It is not selfish to put self-care into place. So many times my clients have to step into their own beauty and realize that their oxygen mask has to be put on first. But no one can make another person do that…it is within them to see that they need to give themselves permission to be human and practice compassion for themselves. We don’t have to be last. It it is crucial to realize this. As you learn this truth, everything else falls into place.
3 tips for heart-centered living:
Stop and breathe. Are you having a heart-centered reaction or are you so busy in your head that things have quickly gone from A to Z? Take three deep breaths, and if you are at a desk, sit up straight and tall elongating your spine and square your shoulders up and then gently bring the shoulder blades down your back. Place the hands in your lap palms facing upwards. Practice: Apana Vayu Mudra-The Mudra of the Heart by folding your middle and ring fingers towards the palm in such a way that they touch the tip of the thumb. Fold the index finger inward allowing it to touch the base of the thumb. The small finger should be stretched outward. Keep your eyes closed and hold the mudra as long as you want to. This mudra actually improves blood circulation to your heart.
Practice compassion. As we start to focus inwards, we realize that we have to live with compassion for ourselves and others. We are all human going about our day in similar ways all around the world. While we live in different places, have different lifestyles, ultimately, we want the best human experience we can have on this planet and hopefully leave it a better place. So the struggles that involve the people we interact with on a daily basis do have some effect on us. Practice: How are you being with people? Look to the 4 A’s. Attention, appreciation, admiration, and affection. Are you open to whatever it is they have to say? Reflect on your body language as well. Tight jaw, tense shoulders. Relax and open up your heart.
Live with passion. Picture what you love doing, who you love being with, what stirs up your passion and fulfills you. Practice: Get out your journal. Write about what you would do if you didn’t have to worry about money? If doubt creeps in write this instead: “I am enough, worthy, and deserving of following my passion. I am strengthened by doing the things I love to do. I am now living my heart-centered calling.”
Remind yourself throughout the day by touching your heart, practicing the mudra or even saying “Am I living through my heart right now or my head?” These pauses in what we act on truly do make a difference when we don’t react right away. Continue journaling about your passion and living through the heart. I actually use this one every night:
To learn more about my new journal guide as part of my 4 Weeks to Wellness program, click here.
Did you know that we experience more inner confidence when we are aligned with our life’s purpose? Individuals who feed their soul exude a kind of self-confidence that is not seen in other people. These individuals know who they are (Finally!) and aren’t afraid to speak their truth…even if it means others won’t necessarily agree with them.
Connecting to what your heart wants is very important in growing as a person. Have you ever heard someone advise you to “Just follow your heart”? Well that’s because doing what you love means listing to that inner guide. That still voice inside you that some refer to as intuition. When you take action driven by what you love, you learn to follow your passion without fear. We learn to shift from the ego to the heart and it’s a beautiful thing.
3 Steps to Boost Your Heart
Identify your passion. What is it that lights you up from the inside out? What topic is it that if someone were to ask you to speak about it in front of a whole room, you know without a doubt you would feel confident because of how passionate you are about the subject? I already know the answer to this. I am passionate about helping other people. I know that without a doubt, and therefore, it is what appealed to me about my all-natural approach to healing and what continued to move me forward into my yoga practice.
Love yourself. This one is harder. So in order to do this one justice, we do a little exercise in my Boost Your Heart program called leaving love notes to yourself. It’s a journaling exercise and it really is important. Notice qualities within yourself that help you to find meaning, pleasure and satisfaction. Allow yourself permission to write down what is your true heart’s desire. Sometimes, following your heart often requires you to take a detour from the path others thought you should take. It can be a long and lonely road initially…but not when you have someone to talk to about your feelings. It’s important to know that you have worth and are important even if you aren’t doing what others expected you to do. Trust the journey.
Be authentic. Have you ever done something that just doesn’t feel like you? Maybe you weren’t available emotionally or mentally because you were trying to fit into a certain crowd. You might have left a situation feeling drained actually because you were trying to keep up this appearance. If you are tuned into how you feel now, and what you really and truly want, it changes the way you interact with people. We must be willing to look at our lives with honesty and true reflection. We must be willing to truly evaluate the parts of it that no longer serve our needs.
Are you truly following your heart?
I have worked with people who have these amazing dreams and desires, but for whatever reason, they ignore them because they think that they are unreachable. Some women would prefer to pretend to be happy and sacrifice their true happiness but justifying that their inner dreams are not really that important anyway. They have to be a mom, a wife, a teacher, a whatever and can’t be themselves. They have fit their life into the role that they feel they must fulfill even if they have outgrown that role or it has them suppressing their inner most desires. I am actually thinking of the woman in The Shift, Wayne Dyer’s movie.
When she woke up and told her husband she was going to stay at the beach for a few more days to paint, it was like an awakening was taking place in her. She realized that her children didn’t even know she had a love of painting. It was quite moving. If you are ready to reconnect to what you love in life, and go fearlessly forward, I invite you to connect with me in my work with me tab. It takes courage to follow your heart.
I thought about this post for most of the day…but honestly I wasn’t feeling well, so I am late in posting:) Most of my friends went back to work today in the traditional sense. I went back to work on making posts, quote posters and taking care of social media for a few local businesses so I didn’t have to call my boss and take a sick day. My office staff was not particularly helpful; however, they are cute and fluffy. They tend to take lots of naps and need numerous potty breaks. Just in case you are new, my office staff looks like this:
Anyway, I happen to find a hilarious and introspective quote last night that I wanted to share with you today. Mostly because I love Ellen…I really do. So Ellen, if you happen to be reading this, I absolutely love the way you give back on your show. And if I ever find myself paying off the expenses of the above mentioned office-staff, well, I’d love to do more of what you do. I know over the years I’ve picked one month to give to people in need, but I’d really like to make it an all year long thing. So here you go: