Oh. You have another message. Should you look at it right now? You ignore it. He or she knows you have your phone on you. Something just doesn’t feel right anymore and you are really tired of this “textual relationship” nonsense.
For starters, what is a textual relationship anyway? It is a “relationship” based in online messaging, private messages, Snapchat, or anything where you actually never talk in real life. If you do talk in real life, it is not quite the same.
In a scary online world, where quite literally anyone can be behind the computer, are you sharing too much of yourself in these private messages? How are you getting to know this person in real life? Would you say the same things to them in the real world that you do online? If the answer is no…maybe you should consider what you want out of this “textual relationship”?
What are some bad signs you should look out for?
- They use fake looking profile photos and have only had their account up for a few months. Okay, I get it. The photo looks great. Unless it’s a fake photo or a photo of their cat. Which never ever changes no matter what. Also, were they living under a rock? Why are they suddenly online, but have not been prior to 3 months ago? Are they tagged in any family photos? Any mutual friends? Is their name even real? Not if warning bells are going off and many excuses are made. Oh yeah, and never send money. <<< huge sign they are a scammer.
- They use a real photo…without their spouse. They are sending you messages about meeting up…but you know they are married. Why would people do this? What are they hoping to achieve? They are hiding something plain and simple no matter what excuse they use. They say they are happily married, then that’s great. Why hide behind a private message? Does their wife know? Probably not…oh and they won’t be leaving anyone anytime soon. You can bet on that.
- They like everything you post…all the time. Even that stuff from 5 years ago. Red flag. Why are they going through your old photos on every account you have? Does it come up casually in conversation? Does it seem like they are stalking you to find out where you hang out? What if they are there, just watching you, because you know, you have never met them? Better yet, what if they actually know you and this is a fake profile they are using to follow you around. Yup. Warning. Warning. Warning.
Nice try blogging lady, but this hasn’t happened to me…yet.
Is texting your sole point of communication? If so, read on. Do you feel like you know this person and could call them up? Then try that idea on for size. Ask them to Skype with you one night and casually bring up things only you two have chatted about. See what happens.
After the chatting on-screen, don’t forget to make a date to really chat in person. Once you feel comfortable…and of course, take the back-up friend to plant in the restaurant or coffee shop just in case things go wrong.
Texting relationships allow you lots of easy ways out, but they also have many downfalls. You can read into the texts, dwell on why they haven’t sent you a text, but you see the read receipt, and it also allows you to only send them the best photos…perhaps with some touching up done. This is so not like real life. There are no filters for bed hair, morning breath, and real body functions. Just saying. In a world where you can be anything, be real my friend.