I sat with my head in my hands and I thought “I don’t know how to write anything today, but people need me.” I said that yesterday too as I did the brief healing Live chat. And I thought it the day before right as I went on to be interviewed live from my business mentor in England.
Last week my feed was up and down on social media (when is it not, really?), and I said to myself “Aimee, don’t get involved with this stupidity. Move on.” I don’t listen to myself because I have this inner sense of if I can help, I am going to say something. So I just told two people to knock off the arguing on public forums, go have a coffee and a hug. They were better than that.
So do you feel close to an emotional melt-down this week? Have you already had one? As we fluctuate between feeling good and then feeling low, depending on the stimulus of our environment, I want you to really step back and become an observer as best you can. Picking yourself up again over and over can be a process that wears you out. So how can we do it and maintain that level of balance of balance in life?
5 Tips For Picking Yourself Back Up Again (and staying there):
- Do the impossible. Pause. I know that we all wish we had a pause button, but I want you to operate as if you had a remote with you at all times. I did this yesterday and it was right before I made the decision to go ahead and read something that would upset me, but it was time to get it over with and then feel it. I paused knowing that I needed to just get it over with, read it, process it as best I could, and move on.
- Allow yourself to let it out. So there I was, in my sweaty yoga clothes, knowing that it was time to feel sadness, but that after I got it all out, I was going to go get cleaned up and move on. I couldn’t allow myself to stay there, make a blanket fort, and hide out with a bar of chocolate and reruns of the Gilmore Girls. Hoping that this time, Rory says yes to Logan. Whatever your go-to thing is, running, yoga, journaling, do whatever it is you need to do to let it all out at that time. Then step back, take a look at your emotions all out there and think “There. That wasn’t that bad.” And move on. << tips for later on moving forward
- Mini-goals are key. I teach the methods of mindfulness, pausing, and setting yourself up for success by choosing small, achievable goals. Think baby steps. Each new month, my Club starts off with what we want to achieve this month. So say you had a set-back that was at work. The boss gave you a task and you just dropped the ball. Think about what happened in terms of small goals. Did you put dates on the calendar for when things should be done? Did you write yourself sticky notes that you could crumble up satisfyingly (I like to do that)? Or make a list that you could strike things off when completed? I secretly do this as well. How are you organizing your planner for success? I also teach this in my wellness course as it’s important for exercise, weight loss and so much more.
- Give thanks. This is probably harder than any of the other tasks because you are down there in the depths of despair and you are feeling alone, isolated perhaps, and maybe even misunderstood. I want you to take 3 deep breaths and place your hand on your heart with each breath. Do you feel that? That’s connection. You are connected to a greater purpose and you have a new chance to get back up again. Gratitude can actually interrupt patterns of anxiety. If you don’t know how to begin a gratitude practice, I invite you to start a journal. << tips for later on how to start
- Rest. Unplug. I know that feel like we have to stay connected to the world, but sometimes, unplugging and going to bed early is the best thing for our bodies. Take a bath, read a book, journal, but make it a point to do something good for you. Getting a good night’s sleep can help you see things in a better light.
In a world that is constantly sending us too many signals, some of us more than ever need to create that safe space to relax and unwind. If you are highly sensitive, make sure you are surrounding yourself with the types of energies you want to attract in your life that will help you fill up your cup. If you are looking for a place that supports you, helps you with daily prompts, a closed group, and 24/7 access to journaling, mindful tips, meditation and bonus yoga poses (that are chair friendly), check out the Head|Heart|Health Club. << We’d love to have you.