Every single day, I see signs of stress. The most stressed people seem to pop in to my yoga class as beginners. They are literally alive with stress. I can read their energy like a neon sign. Do I have the right mat? Let me look at my phone again for just a second to alert everyone not to bother me for an hour. Oh, look at her yoga pants. Is that what I should have bought? My toes. Crap. I didn’t get a pedicure and this class sees my toes. What if she makes me ohm? I can’t be doing that. It’s against my beliefs.
Okay, so some of these have actually been said directly to me as the yoga teacher…and others said to a friend nearby. It’s a small quiet space and I pick up on things. The truth is, I can actually narrow it down to 3 tips because we just don’t do this in our lives.
Reduce Stress With These 3 Tips:
- Be present. <<< I can actually end the article right here, but most people don’t know how to be present, so let me explain. I read somewhere that being present is an ART. And I want you to remember that. In your Activities, Routines, and Triggers. What we do daily…where we are. Kids activities or yours. Be mindful of your feelings and stress levels. In your daily routines, pay attention to what you are thinking about. Is it in the now or the past or future? Focus. Lastly, triggers. These we need more help with. <<< You can open my linked guest post after this.
- Are you taking a step back and breathing? Most people do not take a step back and inhale deeply. Even in my yoga classes, I actually have to teach deep breathing. People even breathe quickly. Like hurry up breath, I got things to do. But instead, rephrase and mentally say “I can slow down and breathe today.” If you take longer, deeper, more cellular breaths you will actually start to lower your blood pressure, so do that for a full round of three. Daily. Each time you feel stress, panic or anxiety come on.
- Think for yourself in a non-judging way. As I said today on my FB Live, yes, this one is hard people. Most people lack the ability to just let the thoughts pass by as observations. Sometimes we think not nice things. About ourselves, others, society as a whole, etc. Sometimes, the thoughts aren’t even ours. They were programmed in long ago by things we heard our parents say and now we say them to ourselves too. But what if we practiced discernment? The ability to practice more understanding or awareness. What if we knew we sounded like a programmed robot on auto-pilot?
My glorious and wonderful friend was so scared of letting me down, her words, in my yoga class that she came in apologizing. She hadn’t seen me in years, and wasn’t aware at all of how I taught yoga. She knew she wanted to do it, and in her eyes, it was the Instagram version. Umm no. I am not an Insta teacher. She thought she had to be flexible (no), dressed in the latest (no), and have a pedicure. No. It took several classes of me actually teaching the yogic breathing, philosophy and more to get her to come in to class and just breathe a sigh of relief. No one was watching her. They were all in their own heads. It is okay to fall out of a pose. It is okay to try something and fail.
The stress she had created in her mind was all based off assumptions of judgement, and fear of wanting to fit in. As we practice patience, trust, acceptance, and letting go, we can begin to feel the stress melt away. So what if you mess up? In anything? The beauty of life is that you can start again.