We need to reverse the formula for happiness and success. Do you follow the formula of if I work harder, I will be more successful and then I will be happier? Watch this and see what you think. The Happiness Advantage: Linking Positive Brains to Performance. Your brain at positive is 31% more productive that at negative, neutral or stressed levels. Hmm.
Did you realize that being happy has a direct correlation with your performance? Finding a way to be positive in the present moment is imperative to you performing better. But…how can we do that when we are under stressed out conditions? Guess what. I have some ideas.
Dopamine makes you happier and turns on all the learning centers in your brain. What are you doing when you are not happy I wonder? Are you making important decisions in an angry state?
I’m going to be honest. I used lots of research to come up with my programs that I just launched here under the work with me tab…but I want to be able to give you some ideas that you can begin to use now.
Creating Lasting Positive Change:
I referenced Shawn’s video, so watch it!
- 3 Gratitudes, new things you are grateful for each day! (remember my previous blog post?? I had not even found his research yet, but look at how forward thinking we are. It goes together!)
- Journaling (WAIT! I didn’t even go to Harvard and I have been writing about this, and counseling my clients for a while. Research skills work!)
- Exercise, which yes, includes me continuing to bug you about my yoga research:) Namaste happy.
- Meditation…heyyyy. Here is where I told you about my collaboration with a friend who does guided mediation. Or you can sign up for free ones online…like Deepak speaking into your ear.
- Last, but not least, what I wrote about last week. Random Acts of Kindness. My friend Shelli did some shout-outs on Facebook one day and let me tell you, it was nice. It can be that small to you, but to the person you are praising it means you are thinking about them and that kind of recognition whether public or private is a happiness booster for both of you!
The interesting thing about all of this, is that if you use the search feature, you can see some of the things I have written about the above ways to create your lasting positive change. I have also come up with workbooks and other things to help my clients over the years, but the bottom line is, if you do the work on the inside, you will start to see results on the outside. ~Aimee
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Stuck in a “Gratitude Rut” because sometimes life is hard?
Years ago, through a series of health issues that seemed to come out of no where, I was left with lots of pain. Darkness began to saturate my thoughts. Pain really does lead to fear…fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate and hate leads to suffering. Yes, Yoda is a wise one. But so was the Buddha who also spoke of suffering. Anyway, through a series of steps, hard steps, I began to turn my thoughts back to what was best for me. That meant getting rid of dead weight. People who did not support my new habits and ways of life. That part was really hard, but necessary. As necessary as breathing because you have to surround yourself with what you are trying to become. That is one of my top shared quotes as said by me, Aimee Halpin. So let’s look at some prompts to help you create new habits of the mind.
- What does it mean to be grateful? Write a few words about what it means to you.
Who do I appreciate? Think long and hard about this one if necessary.
What abilities do I have that I’m grateful for or what am I proud of that I recently accomplished? It can be going to the store. It’s that easy.
What experiences have I had that I am grateful for? Have you ever thought about thanking your body? Weird, I know. But just ponder that for a minute.
What opportunities do I have that I am thankful for that others might not have? If you are unsure, write down 3 synonyms for gratitude and see what comes up in your mind.
What am I taking for granted that, if I stop to think about it, I am grateful for that perhaps others don’t have? Reflect on something that perhaps even made you stronger than you were before it happened.
What is different today than it was a year ago that has really helped me be grateful? Maybe even something that you learned to grow in a way you never thought possible.
- Write down ways that you find balance in your life that you can be grateful for…and if you don’t have self-care practices in place, write ways to add them to your life.
These few suggestions can help change your mindset if you even do one a week. Don’t wait for the right time to think of being grateful…practice it daily. If you can elaborate on the things that are going right in your life, you start to focus energy on the good and more good will be seen…therefore, more good will appear to really come your way. Don’t forget to give it a real chance. It takes time to change your thoughts and methods.
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So here’s the deal. You don’t know me other than this blog, but I am the real deal. Everything I say on here has happened…I decided to update the fan page with a photo of me so that people who have been following me for a long time can feel more connected. I’ll never forget that day I told my girlfriend I had a secret…I wanted to write about the truth in my life. She said go for it and the blog was born. She was like my one fan for a long time. But I didn’t know that others were really paying attention when I posted it to my Facebook page and that they didn’t know it was my blog.
When I finally admitted that the girl they knew long ago was in fact the girl with invisible diseases, many people were shocked. Because I look “well”. Anyway, as most of you know one disease led to another and I was trying to teach kids y’all. I loved my job. I did. It was challenging and hard and scary at times, but I loved making a difference. More than that, I loved giving things away. I brought all my kids clothes in…including underwear. Yes. Because what you don’t know is that some of it was even brand new. Why would I give other people’s children things like underwear? Because they had none of their own. And socks. And warm things. Anyway, it just makes me sad to think of it again. I put clothes in backpacks because they had “accidents” and never asked for it returned. Of course sometimes they didn’t have accidents. I just wanted them to have things.
So I have been feeling like I am not making a difference being out of work this past ummm going on 2 years, to heal my body. My beautiful friend with cancer understands because she was another teacher. And when people ask us to do things, it’s hard to say no. It’s extremely difficult to take care of us first. Why in the world it is, I have no idea. So a while back, I wrote a long letter thing to a certain blogger who is kind of awesome. Her people read it. They did. And they sent me a reply. They are interested in helping my friend. I opened the e-mail and my eyes were leaking. I responded and told my friend and we don’t know what will happen, but we just are so happy. Real HAPPY. Not even Fappy.
Because life shouldn’t be this hard. We are all here to help one another…and I have this quote I like about that. But also GIVING begets GIVING. Like that part in the Bible where everyone uses the word begets. It’s true. I had extra produce because here is a secret. A friend of mine thought of me for this one day a week job…and it fits my health. I can rest after and I get fresh produce!! OHHH and I get to blog about some recipes…even though I secretly don’t enjoy cooking. So that part is hilarious. Moving on. BUT I had something to give back to people, so I went to a house that gives shelter to battered women and homeless women/children. I gave them a whole box of produce that was mine. Then I posted on my FB page I wanted to help if anyone knows someone needing produce…and lo and behold a teacher,ha, gotta love us, anyway needed to help a student. So I zipped over and gave another box of produce. Then someone else said they needed books and things, but they are out of state, so logistically I am figuring out postage…but I’ll get it done.
AND last but not least, THANK YOU reader. You know who you are. You found my Go Fund Me for my dachshund boy…I was thinking people thought he was too old to help. But you didn’t. And I can’t stop crying this morning. You make me HAPPY. So this was what I needed. I miss giving to people. And feeling needed. You my friend I have never met, are awesome.
Still love this quote.
Last year at this time, I wrote all about my past teaching experiences, but I didn’t tell all the stories. I think sometimes people go about their day-to-day lives and they don’t realize how hard it is for “others” to acclimate. Let me explain “others”. Others are the people who have seen more. War veterans, drug users come clean, homeless, recovering alcoholics, people from poverty, cancer survivors, empaths, police detectives, people who live with invisible diseases, counselors, teachers and many, many more. “Others” try to blend in, but it’s really hard sometimes. They carry around the knowledge that there are bad things out there…bad things that perhaps normal people don’t notice.
So for my 30 days of Thankfulness on my, ahem, slightly larger Facebook Fan page, I have paired with people from all walks of life. Yes, all of the above types of people and I dearly LOVE them all. They have the biggest hearts of anyone I know and they also hurt the most when things don’t quite go as expected. The funny thing about the inspirational page owners is that we are people too, and sometimes, real life tries to kick us when we are down, but because we know, just know, others are counting on us to get up again, we do.
So I made a post and kicked off my 30 days yesterday, and the one word I used was “Life” because I am very thankful for it even though it does not always go as planned. I am also thankful for my readers here because you guys have been with me for a while. You know more than my FB fans do, because to them, it’s just pretty quotes. But to me, and you, we know there are always stories behind every quote. Always LIFE behind every quote I make. So here’s to the life behind the quotes.
Tune in Thursday all month long for Thankful Thursday here on the blog.
Author’s note: I completed an extra journaling section just for you guys who are part of the 4 Weeks to Wellness challenge!