You have probably read this article before if you are a regular reader here. <<< The article shares what an Empath is and what we might notice that makes us a bit different as told from my personal experience.
As we begin to wind down the year, we might have been struggling a bit if we have been in contact with too many people. I know I have. I just wrote about our boundaries and why that is so important, so if you missed that, you can take a look at the previous post after reading this. But now it’s important to focus on the word “renew” as we start the new year.
Here are a few tips to start your year off feeling balanced:
- Click into your body as often as possible. Imagine that you are about to get in the car. When you feel yourself being absorbed by other people’s emotions or you have spaced out to a new level, visualize clicking back in. You can even use seat belt imagery if it helps and see yourself “strapped” in to the present moment. Link your breathing to the present for a space of 3 breaths by just repeating “I am breathing in…I am breathing out.” Keep doing this as often as possible when you are around others and you feel yourself being pulled or drained. You can even remind yourself of this each time you use the seat belt!
- Keep calm, and re-tune. You have just been doing 3 or 4 things at once and start to realize there is way too much going on in your head. You are sad about that animal video a friend posted on malnourished creatures…seriously people stop posting those. << unfollow. You have just seen a friend rant for the 4th time and use abbreviations like FML << hide post. You are worried about your friend who is posting really enigmatic posts and won’t say anything at all about what is going on. << you have to realize, that is clearly their stuff. The best thing for you to do when all this information is out there in your social media feed, life and then your head, is to keep calm and really re-tune your body. The people in your life don’t realize what this does to you, so in order to stay balanced, get to yoga, meditate, pray, or turn everything off and get outside. You can also, ohhhh journal with me🙂 Turn on some calming music, your candles or diffuser, and zone out into your stuff, not theirs!!
- Don’t borrow problems! Steps one and two are needed, so after you have clicked in, checked back into your own life, it is important to take note of how you feel after spending time with someone. Are you angry? Hostile? Depressed? Feel like Eeyore??? I had this one friend that left me so dark and gloomy that I had convinced myself that life really did suck. It took me a very long time of emotionally bathing to rid myself of things that were not mine. Yoga helped me tremendously as well as meditation. I then developed my own series of journal questions to use on myself as well as other tools and I quickly realized that I was unpacking other people’s issues…and I did not want that at all.
- Surround yourself with the people who LIFT you up. I just finished the FB live talk last week about this on the page under videos. <<< for later. But man oh man, do you need to be a lift force and surround yourself with others who can and will do the same for you. If you have no one who is like this in your life right now, I invite you to check out my new closed group for the new year. It is called the Head|Heart|Health Club and it does practice what it preaches. Each month there will be new content, and you get to keep all the materials for the month you have purchased. Worksheets, journal questions, tips, videos and more, but I had hundreds of people asking me for a place with good energy, and so my friends, I have made it.
Ultimately, if you do only these 4 things, you will start your new year off right and feel better about the choices you are making. There are additional materials here on the blog for grounding and protecting yourself from negative energy, but remember, one of the most important tips is to be aware that not everyone is going to understand how much you need a clear and pure energy vibration that is truly lifting you up. It is up to you to seek out those who make you feel relaxed, calm, and can respect your boundaries.
Want more tips? Check out the Empath’s Journaling Guide.<<<