Without breaking the confidence and trust of my very close friends, I want to tell you about something I coach women how to handle. The word is fear. Most often, when I do a client intake, fear of failure at trying something new is there in the beginning. One of the most important things for me is not to push people, but to get them moving in the right direction. Once I see that, I can step back and let them go.
This fear of failure needs to be explored. De-cluttered. Looked at under a microscope. And then released. Once we have done everything we needed to do with it, we let it go…kind of like catch and release. How do you propose I teach you to do that in one short blog post? Well, honestly, that’s where my 4 Weeks to Wellness program comes in and you take the bonus option, but I want you to start today so that you have these tools under your belt for later.
5 Tips on How to Face Your Fears:
- Name it. Yes, I know. This seems too simple. But what exactly are you afraid of and why? For some of my clients, it’s getting better and I know this fear only too well. What if…it starts off like that. Write out all of your “what ifs” and “but this could happen” until you narrow it down to the one that clicks. The final reason. The real McCoy. The one you look at on your list and you say “Well, shit. I didn’t know I was still dragging this around with me.”
- Examine the feelings. Journal it. You knew I was going to say that. How has this held you back? What would it be like if you could get over it? What changes can you see coming into your life for the better once this fear has been released? Now that it is named and out there, it’s kind of like Rumpelstiltskin…the one from the fairy tales. It has no power. You know its name.
- Ask yourself why now. Maybe it came up because it was related to something else someone else is going through and you are afraid that will happen to you. Stop those kinds of stories right now. Is it something from the past? Is it something you are afraid of in the future? What are you missing out on right now by not fully living?
- Come up with the absolute WORST thing that could happen. Will you look stupid? Will you die? <<< that scenario might be the worst thing that really could happen, and if that is a thought, then go to your next question. Can you stop it by worrying about it? Could you join a support group and help others on the same path as you and thus by helping them face this fear, help you realize you are not alone? Could you turn this fear into a leadership role? Could you learn something new from it? Could you, in fact, live in the present and celebrate the abundance you already have? Could you meditate or do yoga to continue to help release this fear?
- Make a plan to move forward. What would the opposite of this fear feel like? What are your dreams that it has blocked up until now? Step into your light, no really visualize the white light of protection from this fear and step into it. Your dreams are possible. Repeat that mantra. Life is an adventure and it’s your to take. See the sights you want to see, take from it what you need, but learn to release what no longer serves you.