Why is it so difficult now to spot the real deal? In a world full of people who are not genuine, how can you channel your inner light? We all know what kinds of friends we have at a glance, but what about the people who we do business with, or are “friends” with only over the internet, but yet you don’t really know in real life? The kinds of people who bail on something if it doesn’t serve them, take credit for work they didn’t create or downplay the good points of someone because they want to somehow seem “more than”.
The truth is, there have always been these kinds of people. However, with the rise of the internet and the social media spotlight, these kinds of people are coming out of the woodwork to build a platform for themselves. As a friend of mine said recently, it’s kind of like the Wild West. They are out there selling their snake oil and buyers are lining up. Instead of worrying about what they are doing, take a closer look at what living authentically really means.
5 Signs You’re Living an Authentic Life:
- Upon meeting someone new for the very first time, you try hard to focus on the meaning behind their words. You want to get to the heart and soul of the matter. Riches, job titles, clothes and the like are of little interest in who they really are, and you can see past the image they are trying to project.
- Your purpose is pure. Okay, we all have sinned. Not one of us is perfect, but you know your purpose and it’s coming from a good place. You work hard to be true around other people, and you honestly expect others to do the same. You expect a genuine dialog with your friends and even if it’s not always what you want to hear, you are glad you surround yourself with honest people.
- As with being true to your word, you expect more than surface level conversations. If the topics get really into the heart of the matter, you shine best there. Even if it’s something you would prefer not to discuss, as long as everyone is okay with having a different view on it, you really try to listen. If you have a strong sense of self-worth as well, then these conversations can be illuminating. You don’t doubt yourself or your thoughts, you just listen to the other side with interest. It doesn’t mean it’s going to sway your opinion of the subject matter, but you can still listen without negativity.
- You check to make sure you are staying in alignment with your mission. I was recently asked to do a side job for a pretty decent sum. It is actually the second time this has happened to me, and I again said no. Not because I like saying no to money…but because I say no to anything that isn’t going to propel me in the direction of my dreams. Having more money doing something that is not in alignment with who I am actually just doesn’t feel right for me. I know what I am meant to do and I choose only to work on projects that align with that.
- You aren’t out to please everyone. Again, this goes with the above reference. You can say no to something that doesn’t work for you, and realize that it’s okay. I said no in the nicest possible way even though the person was using his connections as a carrot dangling over me. At the end of the day, you have be okay with your decisions. Not the other person. You can take responsibility for your life.
As you think about the contacts in your life, I hope this helps you to continue to stay true to your mission and live as authentically as you can. Feel free to share with a friend or comment on other ways you live an authentic life!
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